How do I communicate with myself?
We are very passionate and invest our time and energy in how we communicate with others, develop our skills to make a good impression. That’s not bad, it is also necessary, but in reality our most important communication is with ourselves. What do I tell myself (and also to others) about myself? How often do I say “I am happy”, “I am joyful”, “I am sweet”, “I am healthy”, “I am valuable”?
What I tell myself every day in the form of being through "I am" shapes my actions. The form of being is the second highest level of your logical consciousness, which accordingly subordinates and adjusts the lower levels - environment, actions, values and beliefs. If I say to myself "I am a disaster" every day, I could certainly write a blog about a disastrous course of life. That is, I define myself at the level of being and my actions begin to align with it, my beliefs and values begin to align. And as a result, my being is also formed in reality as I define it.
I can tell you an example from my life. Being in a long-term relationship, I didn't feel happy for a long time and I saw that my partner didn't feel happy either. It's like you understand, but it's not that bad, and how can you get over it and change your whole life, when you've been together for so long and all your life is shared?! It's amazing how sometimes the comfort zone pulls us in so much that we are ready to be unfulfilled even for years.
How did healthy communication with myself helped me here? I told myself every morning before my meditation - I AM A LOVED WOMAN. At first it felt uncomfortable to say that to myself because I didn't feel like it. And it wasn't because my partner didn't love me or was a bad person, I still have a lot of respect for him. I think he loved, but in a way that didn't make me happy and therefore I couldn't make him happy either. The illusion of a happy marriage had to crumble.
I gradually programmed myself to be a loved woman and suddenly I had the courage to make bold decisions and actions to help both of us end this relationship respectfully. Actions and decisions that seemed out of my reach before. How will I make a living on my own? Where will I live? Won't I be afraid to be alone? It turns out that I had enough strength to solve it all. And I continued to put this statement in myself, which after more than two years of hard work with myself has resulted, first of all, in self-love and the ability to choose the best and most loving partner.
At the end of the day, our lives are shaped by what we choose to think about ourselves. It is like a promise to ourselves that we promise to fulfill by our actions. You just have to want to it. Just that simple.
